Before our wedding, one month and 2 days ago, I had only been to one wedding. My aunts, when I served as a flower girl at the age of 10. And at that time, I wasn’t looking at the details or schedule of events, I was just excited about being pampered and prepping myself not to trip down the aisle. So when it was my turn to plan my wedding, I had no idea what I was doing. I read wedding blogs, scrolled through pinterest, and asked friends and family for advice. I think overall, the whole day/night went really well but there are definitely things I would change now, when looking back.
I thought it would be good to put a list together of 5 things that I would have done differently at my own wedding for all you brides out there that are seeking advice or in need of ideas. Just remember this list is based on personal experience.
1. Take some photos before the ceremony. This is my number one regret. Kyle and I didn’t want to do a first look so we didn’t take any pictures before the ceremony. Looking back, I wish we would have taken pictures with our bridesmaids, groomsmen and our families before just to get those out of the way. I felt like pictures with them were so rushed after the ceremony and it was raining so I didn’t get the outside photos I wanted. During planning, I didn’t even think to do some of the photos before the ceremony but it would have made perfect sense. Pictures take the longest and it wouldn’t have felt as rushed and we would have had more time to enjoy the wedding with our guests.
2. Hire a wedding sitter if you have a child. Grayson got tired and cranky around 8pm and my parents were designated to watching/taking care of him so we could enjoy our day together. It was loud, there were a lot of people, and he was in a new place – a recipe for a hard night. I felt like my parents didn’t get to enjoy the wedding (that they paid for) as much because they were so focused on taking care of our son. I wish I would have hired a wedding sitter to watch him instead.
3. Pay attention to your music selection and order of the music. I mean, our music wasn’t bad, but it was all over the place. One minute an 80’s song would come on and then the next Taylor Swift would be playing. When I picked the music, I just scrolled our DJ’s provided website and clicked songs I liked/recognized and that I thought our guests would enjoy. I didn’t pay attention to the order or the time period, which I really should have done.
4. Carve out alone time with your groom/bride right after the ceremony ends. This was in fact a part of our schedule, but because it was about to downpour right after the ceremony, we all ran outside to try to get as many pictures as we could before that happened. This was probably just because of the weather situation and we would have had more time to relax if it wasn’t about to pour, but Kyle and I never got those few minutes of alone time to say hi and admire each other on our big day. I really wish we could have done that.
5. Hire a videographer. I went back and forth so much on this and still to this day don’t really know what the right choice is. Videographers are costly, let’s just leave it at that. Because of our budget, I had to choose to let certain things go but I’m not sure letting this one go was the best decision. I have to tell you right now, your wedding day goes by faster than you can imagine. Looking back, I don’t even remember half the stuff that happened and am hoping my photographer was able to capture things in way that I can look back and relive the best day of our lives. If you can afford it, I’d definitely recommend hiring a videographer (nothing beats a real video). If you can’t afford it, you may want to look at your budget and see if there is another area where you can save money and put it toward this. It would have been nice to watch it and relive the whole night again.
I hope this list helps some brides with planning their wedding day!
Happy Wednesday, friends!